Everyone eats differently, but if the way you eat is taking over your life, then you could have an eating problem. But you’re not alone.
Lots of people have different eating habits. You might eat loads one day, be less hungry another day, or go through phases of wanting to eat more or less healthily. But that doesn’t mean you have an eating problem.
But if you’re focussing a lot on controlling what or how much you eat, or if you have urges to eat and then make yourself sick (bulimia), these are signs you could have a problem.
Eating problems are common and they affect people with any body shape or lifestyle. Singers Demi Lovato and Zayn Malik have both spoken openly about having eating disorders and what they did to get better.
All kinds of things can cause eating problems or disorders. You might develop an eating problem when things don’t feel right in other parts of your life, especially if you’re feeling worried, stressed or feeling out of control. Images we see online and in the media can add to the feeling that we have to look a certain way, or be a certain weight which may not be healthy for our body.
Symptoms of eating problems
Here are some types of eating behaviour which you might be experiencing quite often, or taking to extremes:
- losing appetite
- eating when not hungry
- obsessing about your body (e.g. being too fat, or not muscly enough)
- eating only certain types of things or following fad diets
- being afraid of gaining weight
- dramatic weight loss or gain
- making yourself sick
- no longer enjoying eating socially or leaving the table quickly (to be sick or hide food)
- focusing on buying or cooking food for others
- feeling secretive about eating
- being secretive about/preoccupied with food
- being self-conscious about eating in front of others
If any of the symptoms above are affecting your everyday life, it’s a good idea to talk to someone about how you’re feeling. You might have an idea about what an eating disorder looks like, but not everyone experiences the same difficult eating behaviours, and your weight on its own does not determine whether you have a problem.
Being able to control how much or what you eat might give you a feeling of order, but it can lead to more serious issues. If you are worried at all, please reach out for help.
Some eating problems can become serious mental health conditions that need professional help to diagnose and treat. In very serious cases and without the right kind of support and treatment, they can even cause death, which is why it is so important to speak to someone if you are struggling with your eating so that you can get the help you need to recover. It might feel really difficult, but you can get through it and you deserve to get better.
What to do about eating problems
- Talk to someone you trust. If you think you might have an eating disorder, telling someone about it can feel quite hard. But we’ve worked with many young people who have suffered from eating disorders, and they tell us that talking about it was the first step on their road to recovery.
- Speak to your GP for advice. Sometimes learning to eat normally again can be hard work, so your doctor can help you get the support you need. They might suggest talking therapies that you and your family can try, to help you figure out and deal with the issues that have triggered your eating problem. They may also want to measure your weight to assess your BMI (Body Mass Index) – it’s ok to be nervous about this, but just remember they don’t want to judge you, they only want to help.
Our Activists and other young people share their advice on dealing with eating problems.
- “I’d recommend talking to someone you trust about what it is that makes you anxious so that they can support you in managing your intake.”
- “Avoid apps, accounts or websites that contribute to your negative body image and your relationship with eating.”
- “Looking at your body every day might be hard, but try to see and remember all the things your body does for you.”